How Does One Become a Loving Person?
Just recently someone asked me this simple yet profound question. I do not know if the conjunction in between two opposite adjectives made sense there. But quite rightly, as I pondered more on the question at hand, I found myself drawn into its depth.
Can we say that we Love when we feel happy doing something for another person? Or we just do an act regardless if it makes us feel good or not? For me, it is Love when the happiness of the other person becomes essential to your own, like when you feel your own sense of purpose as you do something for your beloved. In such case, an act always comes with Love. Because Love is that force that compels you to act. And for this reason, this act becomes extraordinary because it is done out of Love. Somewhat a circular referencing but I hope you get my point.
But let me qualify the main question here. I believe that Loving is like any person's second nature. It is innate in all of us. Because we are all made to love. To Love is our life's ultimate purpose. (1 John 4:19 "We Love because He first Loved us.") A person is naturally inclined to be Loving. So I guess the question should be:
"How should one Truly Love?"
I attended this teaching and remembered us being asked to replace the word "Love" with the name of your potential partner or as in this post, we will replace this with the word "I". This way, we would know how to Truly Love our Beloved.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
4 [Love is] I am patient; [love is] I am kind; [love is] I am not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. [It does] I do not insist on [its] my own way; [it is] I am not irritable or resentful; it does] I do not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoice[s] in the truth. It] I bear[s] all things, believe[s] all things, hope[s] all things, endure[s] all things.
And if you find yourself doing these, then, perhaps, you can say that you shall have truly loved.
Never be afraid to Love! For "Perfect Love casts out Fear." 1 John 4:18 :)